Saturday, October 12, 2024
Valerie and I met in 1959 when we started at Merle Grove High School, and from that moment on, we became inseparable friends. Val was the kindest soul I have ever known—always selfless, ready to give her last penny, her snacks, her lunch, and even her bus fare to those in need. I remember her giving away her food and fare to classmates who were less fortunate. When I expressed concern, she simply said, “This girl has no lunch, and that one has no bus fare.” Worried that some were taking advantage of her generosity, I suggested I hold onto her lunch and fare until she needed them. She agreed, knowing it was for the best.
Like many young girls, our friendship was filled with laughter and heart-to-heart talks. However, Val did have a jealous side and would often feel hurt when I spoke to other students. This led me to distance myself from her for a bit. One summer, I received a letter from her expressing her fear of going blind and thinking I wouldn’t want to be friends anymore. I chose to ignore it, but soon after, she came to visit me, and we rekindled our bond. Thankfully, she never lost her sight.
After high school, I moved to Canada, and Val later wrote to tell me she was going to England to pursue nursing. When I learned she would be departing from New York, I took the Greyhound bus from Toronto to say goodbye. Our lives continued to evolve as we both married and became mothers. I proudly became the godmother of Val’s first son, and she became the godmother of my third child.
When Val moved to Florida, it became easier for us to reconnect. We spoke nearly every day, sharing life’s joys and struggles. Even as we faced health challenges, she would insist she was “fine,” maintaining her incredible spirit.
Last year, I had the privilege of visiting her in Miami twice and spending precious time together. I will miss our daily conversations and the way we solved each other’s problems. I won’t have her to share photos of our grandchildren or celebrate their successes. Val, you will always be my best friend, sister, and confidant. I love you. Rest in peace, my dear friend, until we reunite.
On Saturday, October 12, 2024 at 05:10:23 p.m. EDT, Eleise Rutherford <eleiserutherford@gmail.com> wrote:
Valerie and I started Merle Grove High school in 1959 and became friends instantly Val was the kindest person you could ever meet. She was selfless I will give you the last penny she had. I remember when we were in the first and second forms Val would give away her snacks ,lunch and
and even her bus fare.when I asked her why she had done that she said this girl had no lunch and this one had no buss fare. She kept doing that and I felt that students were taking advantage of her.
So I said to her , I will keep your lunch and bus fare and give it back when you are ready to eat and when you’re ready to go home. She agreed as she knew that was the only way to solve the problem.
We were friends like most young girls . We spoke about any and every thing.
Valerie had a jealous streak. She resented me speaking to the other students. I decided to stop speaking to her. Over the summer holidays I received a letter from her telling me she was going blind and knew I would not want her as a friend as she was going blind. I ignored the letter. Soon after she visited me at my home and we became friends again. Val never became blind. After leaving high school I migrated to to Canada.
Soon after, Val wrote to me she was going England to do nursing.
She stated that she would be going to New York and would leave from New York to England. I took the Greyhound bus from Toronto to New York to see my best friend and to wish her farewell on her journey to England, and in her new career.
Later I got married and soon Val also got married.
I am the godmother of Val’s first son, and she is the godmother of my third child. Later Valley moved to Florida, and we were able to see each other more frequently. We spoke almost daily and shared everything that was going on in our lives in recent years, our health began to deteriorate, but she was always. She always insisted that I am fine. She would usually say
Last year I visit in Miami twice and spend the summer and spend some time with Val. I told her I would be back next November Val I am being selfish at this point could you not have waited for me to see you one more time , I will miss not speaking to you daily and others trying to solve each other’s problems. We spoke about our children or family or husbands and just about everything I won’t have you to share I won’t have you to share pictures of the grand children and to celebrate their accomplishments you’ll always be and you will always be my best friend and sister and confidant. I love you Val, rest in peace, my friend, and we will see each other on that list for the day.
Love Eleise Rutherford , Antoine Fequiere and family.